Walking the walk...

When walking away feels easier.

For a long time, I confused avoidance with self-protection. I told myself I was setting boundaries, when in reality, I was avoiding discomfort I didn’t know how to regulate.

Avoidance is the act of staying away from people, places, thoughts, feelings, or situations that cause anxiety, pain, or discomfort. While this may be a temporary fix…..many people have began using it as a coping mechanism to reduce distress. Avoidance can feel like relief — stepping away from discomfort, tension, or hard conversations. But when avoidance becomes a pattern, it doesn’t protect us. It slowly disconnects us from growth, authenticity, and ourselves.

I realize that my own avoidance is my own inability to regulate my own emotions. It bases my reaction on how I feel rather than who I am…It has fueled my impulsivity, my anxiety and rumination for years now and ——I HATE IT.

I want my life and my work to mean something and I want it to move something, in myself and in those around me. I want to encourage and inspire deep reflection and exploration to those who seek it. 

This year, I’m choosing presence over performance. Integrity over avoidance. And authenticity over applause.

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Message to the reader.....

If you came here looking for polish, you may find yourself disappointed at times.

But if you came looking for relief, recognition, and resonance —you’re in the right place.

I will no longer shrink myself to fit into anyone else’s idea of who I should be.It is not my job to live up to your expectations of me —and it is not my burden to carry.

Showing up as myself allows me to live in truth.

And it creates space for deeper connection —with other women like you,

whose truth deserves to be heard and whose soul deserves to be seen.

So I’ll leave you with this question:

What if the very thing you’re holding on to is the thing holding you back?

This year,

be the shift in the atmosphere of the rooms you step into.